My daughter never had conflicts, but to get up every day in the morning and go to study Math magician multiplication
I did not know about this reasoning. I had my own. I thought that Anechka would be born soon and then it would be possible to take the senior from school.
I had a very negative attitude towards post-Soviet education.
We lived in provincial N. I was very surprised that before us in the neighboring school from the 8th grade my parents took my son for family education. My father taught. The director of that school proudly reported that a year later the boy returned: “It was hard. The boy pulled out and passed everything well, but he did not want to do it anymore.
The first pitfall
What happened to the first boy at family training in our N. is the first pitfall. We came across it in the 5th grade. This is a desire of teachers to interrogate (not to ask!) a non-standard pupil on all questions. No pupil answers on all topics in all subjects. Only those who are on family education.
I strongly felt the desire of teachers to prove that the system they serve is better. So that others wouldn’t be hurt. We found a way: another adverb of concession school.
Mother-in-law has worked as a teacher all her life. Pupils loved her. She treated our idea of home education badly. It is a blessing that we lived in different cities.
Once she came for 2 days and, as it turned out, she didn’t have time to go to school! I wanted to talk to the class teacher so that the girl would be asked to study at home.
It was an unfailing betrayal. Any person who does not feel sorry for a child can put sticks into the wheels. Such people were always on their way. But my dear grandmother…
My parents also did not agree with our decision. However, my grandfather wrote to my granddaughter: “Don’t look that your mother and I don’t agree with our decision. Listen to your mother, no one loves you more than her.
Unwelcoming people are the second pitfall. Inescapable. The worst thing is when they are relatives.
The third pitfall.
10th and 11th grade Natasha finished in one year. She wanted to leave school 3 times. Overfatigue. She kept thinking about those who would also study externally after her. She knew that she was paving the way for many people.
Overload is the most terrible thing in education that I know. Something dies in a person, something is lost forever. The pioneer spirit helped here, she endured. And the youngest daughter broke down, and after the 9th grade. She finished well, but did not want to study anymore, only 6-month courses.
At the age of 16 Anya went to work as a designer in a printing house, successfully working at one place for 2.5 years. Apparently, 9 classes are really enough for her. But it would be better for her to make such decisions for other reasons.
The older one has been working since she was 14 years old. Overload has become a norm of life for her, she is a workaholic. I am not happy about it; I see my roots in the habit of constant self-education.
What didn’t happen is conflicts with her peers. It is a huge plus of home education.
With school, in the end, we were very lucky: we were treated in a friendly manner. After us, the children of our friends also study there. The school director believes that the best education is self-education. Such a leader is a real find! This is what we have to look for. The school is a director, believe my experience.
Indeed, how can you call a poor quality education of the same Natasha who has her own design studio (printing and web development).
The main pitfall of home education is in the family.
When the comrades do not agree… Our friends have an older boy who is successfully studying externally already in the 6th grade. But every time before passing the exams the mother panics that her son knows nothing. This turns into a sawing of her husband. This problem has to be solved somehow beforehand. Only a firm belief, only a categorical rejection of the school by both parents will provide your children with a normal path of externship.
Our other acquaintances used to give their children to school or take them away. At this stage, they were taken away. Such hardness is not fatal, but, to put it mildly, not useful.
And another nuance arises in the family: parents may forget to let their children learn in the morning. The business is enough. Well, do not forget.
So, only a solid foundation is good for construction. With home education is the same. Doubtful? Either establish yourself, or do like everyone else.